Is this marriage worth saving...is it worth another heartbreak?

My husband and I are highschool sweethearts and we have a lot of history...This is my second-his third... Recently, I found out that he has been cheating on me. Communicating with another female from the internet and he sent her flowers. When I confronted him with it he denied it. Then I found out that he cheated again with two more people (swingers). He denied as well (this has been happening for the past 3 months). I asked him to come clean, to tell me why? His answer was that I'm too good to do "bad", I don't seem like the type to be wild....I told him he should have asked me instead of going out of our marriage...He is not shy or embarrased--just one of those "bad boys" I like. We have talked, but I think he is just not interested any more.

We have a newborn and divorce is not an option. I don't know why he stays...I know not for the child...He says that he loves me, but his love is hurtful and harmful. I'm tired of the lies, cheating and God know what else. Is it worth it?

Is this marriage worth saving...is it worth another heartbreak?
he now sees u as a mom, not a sex object, seeing u as just someones mom, and not some erotic chic, he is immature, seeks passion, seeks the things u find in new relationships. no it isn't worth being hurt all the time, what he is seeking he can't get from u anymore. he wants a particular kind of woman. sometimes its best to end something like this, so u won't keep opening yourself up for heartache. he likes the feeling involved when he first meets other women,and how it makes him feel about himself, and with his hormones. he will keep doing it, as i think he may be addicted to the feeling he gets from someone new. its like a high we get when we first connect with a new partner, where we are so connected with that person, we can't really separate us from them. like the feeling an infant gets from it's first connection with it's mother. but unfortunatly it does end doesn't last forever, than he is out chasing someone new again. just how i see it.
Reply:He is staying because he can, you allow him to stay, and he can have you when he wants and others when he wants, What did you think, Bad Boys, did u actually think he would be faithful? Divorce is always an option, why stay in a relationship where your lied to, cheated on, and also disrespected? Is this the life you want? If not then u need to do something about it, Tell him to moe out or something along that road, Itsa hopeless marriege where he can have his cake and eat it to. He will keep going as long as he knows that he can do it. Its not worth the stress and headache and for the child , it will show the child thT ITS ok to treat women like that..
Reply:your marriage is too young to start goin through the rough times.i shouldnt be telling you to divorce him because you guys agreed for better or worse.believe me it isnt any easier to go through a divorce.you will come out with even more hurts and bitterness that would probably span a lifetime.

first of all find out what he wants from you,from the marriage.does he see you guys together,happy in say the next 29 years?
Reply:First he stays cause you put up with his crap. Second divorce is always an option, if this is his third marriage there is a reason for that. I you need to set a better example for your child and you should want better for your self. Why be a door mat? and risk getting an STD or worse.
Reply:he is not a "bad boy" he is not a good man and now you know that he will continue to be an unacceptable person do you want your child to see you degraded he/she will either grow up to think this is how it is suppose to be and the cycle will continue so if not for youself for your child get rid of the "bad boy" and find a great man
Reply:No it's not worth it. There are plenty of single moms who make life work out just fine. Make sure to take him to court for Child support.
Reply:If you stick it out you are in for a long hard road.

Don't go bad, don't compromise yourself. The minute you do, it can only get worse.
Reply:Divorce!!!!!
Reply:You say divorce is not an option. Well, wake up because it is an option.



Unless you can convince him to stop his sexual exploits outside the marriage relationship he will continue to do this type of activity.



It doesn't appear as if he has any problem with cheating in this marriage and thus will continue to do it.

Even if he was to quit doing it, you'd would always be mentally thinking (Is he cheating again).



Since he has cheated so often and lies about it. This marriage is already a failed marriage. Divorce is probably the answer, to your problems. Put him behind you as he's going to continue to bring misery to your life.



Divorce can be financially devasting to both parties. But finances and children should never be an excuse to stay in a failed marriage.
Reply:history is history,..people change and so are thier feelings..and its happening now,..if divorce is not an option,..are you willing to suffer more..from his lies and cheating on you..stay...and just hope for the impossible to happen,..but if think you dont desrve this relationship your into now,..leave him,you deserve a better person ,now that your a mom..
Reply:Only you can answer the question of whether this relationship is worth it or not. I am guessing since you are posting on yahoo you are feeling really really hurt and alone....having a newborn is a difficult enough change in itself without him doing this. Why do you believe divorce is not an option for you? I am also wondering why you are giving him all the choices and all the power. What do you want? Take his wants out of this and think about yourself and your child. He is already thinking about himself and his own needs. I guess it's OK to like bad boys and to be a bad boy ....but one day all boys grow up and become men and now he has a child and a wife he needs to start behaving like a man. Love does not cheat and lie but respects and cares....I am sorry to be so blunt.
Reply:You may be dealing with a man who has a Sexual Addiction.

I suggest that you get into counseling asap. Either with him or without him. I would also get tested for STD's.

I think he is trying to put it back on you because there are was to spice up your love life without having to go outside you marriage. Coward! Don't buy his manipulation! If he cant love you, then you must love you!
Reply:have a go at marriage counselling, if you don't want out then try and save it, if it doesn't work then start living for the baby that you have just had. YOU deserve to be haoppy too.
Reply:I agree with the other guys answer. It's time to let go. You have been trying to make him stop but he doesn't want to, so let him go, you can survive on your own.
Reply:You would want to raise your newborn with a father like that? OMG, are you just plain crazy to let him stay. Kick him the F out already... Holy Crap!