Mature married ladies only please?

My wife of ten years used to be pretty wild in bed, but after she had our first child (there were some complications she thought she might loose the baby, but didn't )she just went off sex, we still do it a couple of times a week, but it's become sort of routine. I kmow things can slow down a bit after being married a while but this happened suddenly and her drive hasn't come back at all. I have tried everything, I think I'm quite thoughtfull, I pull my weight with chores around the house, bring her flowers cook her romantic meals, take her out (when we can get baby sitters) give her breaks from the kids regularly, run her hot baths with essential oils and candles....nothing works. I tried talking to her about it a few years ago but she thought I was critisizing her and became defensive so I dropped it. One other time she told me that she really loves me but prefers to cuddle up than have sex. everything else in our marriage is great but how can I get back the PASSION in our sex life.

Mature married ladies only please?
You've certainly tried. Maybe you should consult with her Dr. She may be suffering from depression or it could be a libido thing.
Reply:when you do please email and tell me how u did it my husband we have been married8 mo but together 4 years never wants to touch me but over does it with money and cuddys and kisses me so if u figure it out let me know
Reply:Sounds like she could be depressed. Whatever happened to her, its not normal. She really should go if for a check-up with the doctor and have herself checked out.
Reply:I am the same as your wife...my hubby tries (not as hard as you have but in his own way, I am sure).



When I had my son, I lost my identity because I could no longer think of myself but him. I am a stay at home mom and there is no clocking out or calling in sick for that...it is 24/7 and stressing. You might let her read this and maybe she will email me (please do mommy, I would love to have someone to talk to about this...chrissy757@yahoo.com - use subject "mom dealing with loss of life as she knew it").



Mommy, if you read this...I understand your need for a cuddle without having to have sex. I would love to just cuddle my husband without any strings attached but I can't anymore because it always leads to an argument about sex or a schedule for sex. For me, sex has become another duty I need to fulfill and has lost it's enjoyment for that reason.



Daddy, sorry to plague your question with my feelings but I do hope your wife will see you are wanting to grow closer together by posting this question and that this is not about a need you want to fulfill.



Ask her to consider emailing me.
Reply:thats all u care about sex? think about ur wife and about what she wants too not just what u want some times u got to make some sacrifises in ur life hopefully this should be ur hardest one
Reply:Fred: there may be hormonal problems. There may be exhaustion after handling small children all day. There may be a wish to have something that does not have a demand at the end. She has told you that she wants to cuddle, so forget the baths, dinners, flowers, etc. for a while - these are now a signal that you want sex. Get a chick flick, a couple of candles and a comfy couch and CUDDLE. I am sure that after a while, when she can be comfortable with the thought that intimacy does not always lead to sex, she will be the passionate person she used to be. And be sure to tell her that you love her many times every day.
Reply:she just wants you to be around just because you don't have sex doesn't mean the passion isn't there anymore just keep doing what you are doing and you Will be doing good let her come to you as well just show her you will always be there for her

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